Thought

Everyone I know could justify to themselves that they are a victim.

A person with bad intentions took advantage of you. Your parents didn’t love you enough. Life turned against you and it was outside of your control. You lost everything through no fault of your own.

All of this could be true. You could do everything right and life could still slap you upside the head.

You could call yourself a victim and you would be completely right.

Victimhood is seductive. It feels good to push the blame onto others. You shouldn’t do it though.

You see, while victimhood feels good in the moment, it silently steals all of your agency. As long as you place yourself at the mercy of others, you’ll remain incapable of doing anything about it.

Here’s the secret: victimhood is a choice.

It may seem counterintuitive, but taking responsibility for everything is the path of power.

Whatever bad things happened to you, you are responsible for dealing with the consequences. Life isn’t fair and I believe that’s on purpose.

The point of life isn’t too avoid all pain and suffering, it’s to face it with courage and dignity. Reality can be harsh and unfair and that’s okay.

Your life is shaped by your response to failure. Pushing the blame onto others is always the wrong response. Always.

The famous saying goes, “With great power comes great responsibility.”

But the exact inverse is also true, “With great responsibility comes great power.”

What’s beautiful about the approach of ownership is that all the failures are yours to learn from, and all the successes are your victories to glory in. When you get it right, you get it right. It’s yours.

Accepting responsibility imbues you with nobility and agency.

Take up the mantle of responsibility and unlock your true power!

Tactic

When things are totally unfair and you have every right to blame something beyond yourself, how do you take responsibility?

Find the 1% you can take accountability for, it can be as simple as “I didn’t know any better at the time.” For example, you didn’t know that person was going to take advantage of you.

Start focusing on the piece you can own, no matter how small. Then, learn the lesson from the experience and determine how you won’t make the same mistake again.

This is how you never let a failure or setback go to waste.

Tome

Tool

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Alex

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